Monday, June 21, 2010

Have you ever.........

Felt like something is holding you back from accomplishing a goal that you are determined to reach? I am passionate about a lot of things, and I also don’t mind trying new things once and sometimes it only takes one time to realize what might be right for me.

 Lately a lot has been sitting heavy in my heart on what I want to continue doing but the lack of ignorance and jealousy and dislike is what holds me back. The constant why do you want to do that for? You really think that’s for you? Just really think about it before you put your all into it. I don’t know about you but aren’t we supposed to go in hard in any situation to see what the outcome of it will be? I’ve always been a dedicated person when it comes to doing what I love and what makes me happy but that feeling hasn’t even come close to me recently, it just sits there waiting to see if it should react or not.

I don’t take what people say to me for granted but the fact that it comes from someone who I always admired as an inspiring individual is beginning to take its toll on not just me but everything.

I do the best I can to support anyone in my life that is passionate about anything they are doing whether it is an acting job to writing a book to getting a good grade in school. I’m always there to lend a helping hand even if sometimes you have to explain to me what to do first and I will do my best to be there for you and I have a few close people that can vouch for me on that.

I don’t like having the attitude of ill prove them wrong because like I said I can’t control what the outcome will be, but how do you ignore the constant negativity? Besides the obvious of telling them to STFU what can I do without lashing out and giving them what they want?

I’ve always been a private person when it comes to dealing with issues like this but I felt like maybe there is someone out there that can share something with me from a previous experience or something similar.

Has anyone ever felt like this and actually proved a lot of people wrong? If so how did the people react and how did you react when you accomplished what you were striving for?

Post your thoughts if you wish to share.



  1. Debbie,

    I understand it's hard not to find someone who can relate to the things you are dealing with, especially when you do need support. I've had friends and family who never believed in me.

    I learned one thing working in the business I love to do...

    I worked in retail, customer service, 1st grade aide, to being out of work off and on. Each time I felt like either 1. I wasn't doing nothing or going anywhere 2. I hated my job and the people who managed me lol 3. I wanted to quit. haha.
    Those are all feelings that people go through when they know they should be doing what they love.

    I knew from then on I had to pursue what made me happy. We aren't here on earth very long and losing one day can attribute to you losing one day of something you could be doing you love. Do it because it's your life.. even if you fail, you can say you at least tried.

    I started my own graphic design business and I've gone through some shit.. great and bad. But it's honestly the best job I've ever had in my life. I love being my own boss, working from home and being around people who are creative like myself.

    Don't let anyone stop you.. from yourself. You can do anything you put your mind to.. even though it is scary.. and it can be overwhelming never stop. We are all here to shine, we are here for a reason.

    I believe in you.. you are talented, funny, beautiful, a honest, down to earth, amazing person.

    You are here for a reason.. now you just have to .. do your passion. <3

    I love you friend,

  2. @ALi You are so right when you say that we are not here for long and losing one day can mean losing time in doing what I should be doing. I have tough skin and sometimes I feel like certain things people tell me just bounces off but in the long run does tend to annoy me a bit. I do admire your determination to letting go of everything and going for what makes you happy,I have a feeling one of these days that is exactly the route I'm going to take because I need to be loving what I do. Thank you so much for putting many things into perspective and always being such a great person and friend to go to whether its good or bad. You have always believed in me and I thank you for sticking to your word. I love you friend.

  3. Wifey,

    First and foremost, I wanted to tell you that you are definitely one of those people that I look up to. You're always there when I need you and I'm glad that I can be there for you as well. I enjoy the time that we have spent together and because I have gotten to know you--I know that you can do whatever it is that you set your mind to--regardless of what other people say, regardless of how disheartening their comments are, and regardless of how loudly it resounds in your head.

    I feel as though the majority of my life has been my family setting the bar "too high" for me. I was expected to be a valedictorian, smart enough to be a five-time Jeopardy champion. I was expected to be a skinny little twig with a penchant for girlish drama like Heidi Montag. I was supposed to be a doctor--someone that my parents could brag about. Every day I felt like all I was doing was failing them, and you know, up until very recently, I felt as though I was.

    But you've got it right--it's important to stay true to yourself. I'm young, but I'm learning that every day. I do the best I can in my schoolwork and as long as I know that I put in 100% effort, it's as good a feeling as any 4.0 could give. I'm working to take care of myself, not necessarily to "be skinny" or anything like that, but just to feel healthy and alive. Doctor? I wasn't cut out for it, but I knew that marketing would make the best use of my talents.

    Despite what everyone had been saying to me and despite all of their expectations, after realizing that what I'm doing is chasing my dream, I am happy. And it shows to the point where I feel almost untouchable (but not arrogant--don't wanna end up like Ole Girl with the awful makeup trying to teach others how to do it...lawd. Haha.). And I think that other people can see that, too. And you know what? I think that for the first time, I really, truly feel like my parents are proud of me and supporting the direction that I'm taking and I really appreciate it.

    I don't know if that helped any, but in the event that it didn't, I hope you know that whatever it is you decide to do, I support you, wifey. If you need me, you know where to find me--I'm only a BBM away. :)

    Love always,
    Your Sexy Wifey, Mellie (I'm so self-flattering, haha.)

  4. Expectations are the hardest thing for anyone to live up to. Our parents expect us to follow the pathway they lay out for our lives, our friends expect us to always be a certain way, regardless of what you are given to deal with. But the one thing I have learned in 34 years of life is this: The only expectations you should allow yourself to live up to are YOURS. You can't please all of the people all of the time, and if pleasing someone else doesn't make you happy, then what's the point? Work for your passion, live the life you envision for yourself and once people realize that you are indeed your own person, they will have no choice but to give you the respect for following your dreams or they'll have to move out of the way. Never let naysayers hold you back!